When Muslims greet each other, instead of saying, "good morning" or "hello" they say "Assalamo Alaikum," which means "May peace be upon you and may God's blessings be with you." This greeting makes a Muslim aware that he has to spread love and peace wherever he goes.
Etiquettes on meeting with Arab People
- Always shake hands. When they greet each other after a long absence it is customary for Arab to kiss symbolically on each cheek. An Arab may also keep hold of your hand while he is talking to you after shaking hands. This is a normal custom in Arabia and is a mark of friendship.
- The most common greetings are as follows:
Good morning, Good Afternoon or general greeting at anytime, Good Evening, Hello, Welcome, How are you?
- Al-humdoolillah means that you are well (literally 'thanks be to God') and it is customary to always give this reply even if you are at death's door. ( In saying this the Muslim is acknowledging God's will )
- Forms of address are important. An Arab is called Saiyid (Mr) followed by the first of his given names, and when no familiar terms by the first of his given names only. A ruling Sheikh is 'Your Highness' initially and thereafter 'Sir'. Other Sheikhs are 'Your Excellency' as are Government Ministers. When calling an Arab it is polite to prefix his name with 'Ya'.
- The two main variations for 'Goodbye' are:
Maa As-salaama, Fee Amaan illah.
- You may also hear Allah Yisullmak and Salaamak-allah used in reply.
You Pay a Visit
- After shaking hands and exchanging greetings the person on whom you call will ask you to sit down.
- Your host will indicate a seat. The most important visitor usually sits on his host's right hand in the closest seat.
- Don't be surprised if someone occupying that positions gets up to make way for you. It means you are considered more important for the moment anyway.
- Don't sit in such a way that the sole of your foot is presented to another person. This used to mean, and still does in some places that you are intentionally insulting that person (since the sole of the foot is unclean)
- What happens next depends on your host. He may or may not follow the custom of consuming refreshments before discussing the purpose of your visit. His manner and general appearance will usually tell you what type of person he is. It is increasingly common in business circles to dispense with the formalities.
- If, however, your host abides by the old customs there then follows a period either of silence or of general enquiries after each other's health. This lasts until a servant enters with tea of coffee.
- Take the cup in the right hand. The right hand only is used when drinking, eating and offering cigarettes.
- Drink as many cups as you like but not a lot more than your host or others present. It is customary, however, to drink more than one cup of coffee or milk-less tea or you risk offending your host. Turkish coffee should be sipped until an inch of the liquid remains in the cup or you may end up swallowing the thick coffee grounds.
- The signal that you use to show you have had enough to drink is a quick twist of the empty cup as you hand it back.
- The time is now opportune to mention the subject of your visit.
- You may, as a businessman, have been ushered into a room and found other businessmen present. In this case announce yourself, sit down, drink any refreshment offered and wait to be asked your business. When asked, give enough information to interest your potential client so that he will consider granting you an exclusive interview later when you will be able to set out your terms in detail.
A HUFLA or Party
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Hufla is the Arabic word for party. You may be fortunate enough to receive an invitation. In which case.
- Your host would be most impressed to receive a written reply in Arabic if that is appropriate. An Arab friend might write it for you.
- The time of your arrival will vary depending on the type and circumstances of the party and who the host is. It is sometimes correct to arrive exactly on time and at others to delay for five or so minutes or even longer. It is best to seek advice.
- Eating still sometimes takes place at floor level. Again avoid presenting the soles of your feet to anyone. Use only your right hand.
- It is customary to take your leave soon after you have drunk the coffee.
- You may also wish to entertain. Ideally, issue a written invitation in Arabic. Any local printer will help you. Do not attempt to mimic all the Arab customs. English food is quite acceptable except that the Muslim is forbidden by the laws of his religion to eat pork or drink alcohol.
- When an Arab has visited you he may later make a small gift in thanks. You should reciprocate when next you are his guest.
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